Just say no to co-dependency

Trying to gain my emotional and physical strength back. Taking a few days off from Bikram. I am totally running on empty physically and mentally.

On Friday went to a Bodyflow class in town just a 60 minute class. Spent the afternoon running errands with my husband and getting time to talk. He is headed out of town for the next three weeks, fortunatly home on weekends. I've just gotten use to having him home and poof gone again.

Still dealing with the issues with my father with my mother's estate. We each had our jobs that were assigned by the attorney back in February 2008. I finished my homework in a timely fashion and got it turned in. My Dad did not. We have had one six month extension, but the time is ticking and now as predicted Dad is striking out and it is everyone elses fault that he didn't finish his homework. I try and stay calm with Dad which so far I have been successful with. We did a bit of brainstorming today. I told him nobody thinks dealing with settling with someones estate is fun. Because dealing with someones estate means someone died and that is a very sad thing. Dad got very quiet. I think he is finally grieving.

On Saturday I had an easy run with some friends and then spent an hour sitting on their back porch enjoying great conversation while enjoying the nature preserve that back up to their backyard.

When I go home more e-mails from my Dad and then a telephone call. I am totally drained. My Dad and Mom had this co-dependency going on. After Mom got sick and died he lost that . . . no one to bail him out when he got himself a bit too deep. It seems like none of the daughters are willing to take on the co-dependency roll. Basically he says if you don't do this then I'm going to do that and you have no worth to me. I am not willing to play that game.